shadow123 wrote: |
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Do you have no friends? o.O
I think it's better for you to speak with a good friend about something like that instead of a discussion with strange guys on the internet ... |
Haha, I have been asking EVERYONE for advice, friends and strangers. I want to get as many opinions as possible.
Duoas wrote: |
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I think that having the question indicates that perhaps you are not as serious about the current girlfriend as you would like to think. Save her the heartache and tell her. |
Perhaps you're right, although I do believe that I am very serious about this, I'm just not so sure about this whole long distance thing... It really sucks!
NGen wrote: |
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I wonder if you're more afraid of hurting her than you are of being without her? If this is the case, then I think dragging it on would only make it worse. |
As far as I can tell, its both. I would hate being apart from her, and at the same time I also would NEVER want to hurt her, I feel too strongly towards her for that to even be thinkable.
@Catfish: Thanks for that, but the problem is that I feel for both and don't fancy breaking up with my current girl OR not being with the new one.... Cheating clearly isn't an option, that's just wrong.
Framework wrote: |
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You have two lasses? Legend :)
Long distance relationships are tough, especially if transport is restricted. If your feel that the relationship is too strained, talk to your distance lass and see the relationship from her perspective. If she, too, feels the same, then it's time to end the relationship. Since summer is approaching, she'll probably be inclined to date (if you want to call it that) others lads more closer to her.
The fact is, juggling two lasses like a legend is bound to balls up in the end. Make your choice. Who do you feel more attracted to in terms of personality (unless you're shallow)? |
That's what I was thinking of doing, talking to her about it. I just wanted to be sure that dating locally is something I would want BEFORE I bring up the idea of breaking up to my current girl. As for who I like more, I like the distance girl more but I HATE the distance. Right now I'm essentially trying to figure out what matters more to me; being with a local girl that I love less but is local, or being with a girl I love more but who is far away. As for visiting my distance girl, we would be limited to only a few a year, nothing much.