"Calling" everything

[q12]

hy im q12 and im rookie in sort of programming and I NEED HEEELP.
what is on my mind is a little hard to explain.I try my best.
I know how to declare a variable, a function, to write a string of characters or numbers (I still looking in tutorials and depict from there what i need to know) but...WHAT I DONT KNOW is how the heck i USE them?
At "what" or "how" are you thinking when you make a program?
I try for SOME LOooNG TIME to understand but I think im too stupid to understand from pages on the net (or i dont find THAT tutorial who can explain right for me).
I try a lot of programing languages starting with pascal,c,c++,darkbasic,alice, Visual-c,c#,c++,basic,php,even assembler, some programing zones in Excel and Word but from all of this i cant manage to understand the life behind the words.
im desperate.
pleeeeease give me some nice hints,points,tutorials,pdf's,torrents, everything from what i can master the skill of writing a program.
I hope you understand my problem.
thank you very much in advance.

[PickleMan]

A program is as simple as:

int main(){return 0;}

(21 bytes of source code!)
To write a functional program that does something, buy C++ for Dummies. That can really help.

[q12]

indeed what you wrote here is Very escaping and simple answer for a guy who dont want to pick a book and read it BUT ... I read a Lot and the examples that i find there (in what i read) are not good enough for understand the inner principles of coding. I ASK YOU, the best ones, to make it simpler to me and give me a resume (if i can call it that way).
I dont know , i am thinking a lot at a "map", like when to choose a variable or a function, and looking at that map and to understand right away what i can do next.
and:

int main(){return 0;}

indeed there are very simple(like a keygen) and very elaborate programs(a game) is no doubt about it. :)

[PickleMan]

<duh>Hmm. Maybe you can check out the tutorials on cplusplus.com?</duh>