Which library would you command for video processing?

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I am using openCV2.2, openCV have a lot of useful algorithms
But openCV2.2 is not really "upgrade" to C++ style since it
have to compatible with c style function. Even the containers
of openCV2.2 use template, the algorithms of openCV can't
support every type.
Besides, when you declare multi channel array, it is very
difficult to work with generic algorithms
So, are there any free, high efficient, ease to use library
for video processing?

Thanks a lot

ps:looks like Mat or Mat_ use reference counting, do I have any
way to disable it?